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Joanne has published more than 2,500 articles and was award recipient of the 1990 Woman of the Year for Beaver County, Pennsylvania, for her accomplishments and excellence in journalism and to the community. Her co-authored book, “Unforgettable Journey,” won fifth place in the Grand Beginnings romance contest. An excerpt from her WIP, “Unearthed,” placed her fifth in the Absolute Write Idol contest. Most recently, her essay, “Perseverance,” is published in the Stories of Strength anthology in which 100% of the profits are donated to disaster relief charities. Her most recent articles were published in ByLine Magazine, Writer's Digest, AbsoluteWrite.com, and Moondance.org. She has a monthly freelance writing column at Absolutewrite.com. Currently, she is the sole caregiver for her 85-year-old mother.

Sunday, December 23, 2007

Two Feather—The Problem Solver

It’s been difficult for me to get into the holiday spirit. On-going family issues that just should not be happening and wondering how I’m going to make time for everyone to see Mom has put a damper on any good feeling I have about this holiday.

In one last effort to try to make things right, I called my brother, Ray, yesterday morning and left a message for him to call me back.

I went on with my plans and took Mom to Angel’s house around 2:00 to bake and decorate cutout cookies. Ray called me back while we were there. I asked if he was planning to visit with Mom on Christmas since he hasn’t come around or called for four months. He said he hadn’t planned on it, because of me, but he would like to see her. I asked Ray if I hadn’t called to make these arrangements if he would have bothered calling. He admitted he wouldn’t have. I told him I’d keep Mom up a little longer on Christmas Eve so he could visit after she got home from day care, and he said he’d have to check with his wife and call me back.

Mom and I were at Angel’s house for only about an hour and a half and I took her home. When we got home, I called Two Feather to let him know we were back and told him my brother called me back. Two Feather told me to call him after I got Mom in bed because he wanted to come down and talk to me about something.

When Two Feather came down, he told me that while Mom and I were at Angel’s house, he went up to talk to Ray. He asked him if he’d received my message yet and Ray told him no. Two Feather said he was there to make peace and told Ray that I had called to make arrangements to set a time for him to visit with Mom. He also told Ray that the lies about me trying to keep him from seeing Mom needed to stop. Two Feather told Ray that five years ago when he met my older brother, Bob, he asked Two Feather to take care of me, and he is taking care of me—from this point on if anyone messes with Joanne ever again, physically or mentally, they have to deal with him. He told Ray that I was doing fine taking care of Mom, but all the other family nonsense was making me sick and everything that has been going on hasn’t been about keeping him from his mother. He told Ray that calling me names had to stop. Ray told Two Feather he appreciated him coming to talk with him. Two shook his hand in the Indian way expecting my brother to hold to his word from this point on.

I’ve said before that Two Feather always finds a way to solve a problem and he’ll either leave you with a smile on your face or something to think about. It didn’t surprise me that he took it upon himself to try to make peace during a holiday he doesn’t celebrate. To Two Feather people should gift others with kindness and gratitude every day of the year, not just on one day. Everyday is Christmas.

When Ray didn’t call me back, Two and I sat and talked about other options. I called Ray this morning and told him that since it’s Christmas and I’m trying to make everyone happy, Mom could go off her normal schedule for one day so she could have Christmas dinner with him. He could pick her up at 3:30, spend a few hours with her before they had their dinner at 5:30, have dinner, and still spend some time with her after dinner.

Yes, Mom is normally getting in bed at the time they’ll be eating dinner, and she’ll be tired, but I guess it’s better to see her tired than not at all.

No matter what adversities we meet, Two Feather is always the problem solver. It’s just his way.

Peace is the best present I could receive right now and Two Feather has gifted me greatly.

Two Feather, thank you for that, and I thank the Creator for sending Two Feather down my path just prior to the time when I would need someone like this the most. I’m sure my Dad is smiling now. So, Two Feather…Wado. Gv Ge Yu I (This means, Thank you, I love you.)

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12 Comments:

Blogger cornbread hell said...

well...it looks like i have a new favorite post. thanks to you and two feathers.

12/23/2007 6:17 PM  
Blogger rilera said...

I hope things work out with your brother. And God bless Two Feather. He sounds like a wonderful person.

12/23/2007 8:29 PM  
Blogger Lori1955 said...

Ah what a blessing Two is to you. Now if your brother will just straighten up his act.

12/23/2007 8:45 PM  
Blogger *(¯`·¸*Chris*¸·´¯)* said...

The sweetest of blessings. May you have an abundance of them along with peace.

12/23/2007 11:13 PM  
Blogger Jeff said...

Two Feather is truly a blessing in your life.

12/24/2007 9:31 AM  
Blogger ~Betsy said...

The world needs more people like Two Feather. I like the idea of gifting others all year long. I wish peace to you and your entire family.

12/24/2007 12:31 PM  
Blogger flintysooner said...

I'm hoping it works out for you and your brother. Blessings to you and and your mom and Two.

12/24/2007 7:00 PM  
Blogger nancy said...

what a beautiful post. thank you for sharing. hope you have a wonderful and peaceful Christmas.

12/24/2007 11:50 PM  
Blogger Frank Baron said...

Family strife is very painful. I'm glad Two Feather is in your life.

Hope your Christmas is peaceful and cheerful.

12/25/2007 9:20 PM  
Blogger nancy said...

just wanted to let you know i'm thinking of you and hope your Christmas was peaceful.

12/26/2007 10:14 PM  
Anonymous Unique said...

I am so glad Two is there for you. I know you and Mom are safe and cared for so I can send warm wishes and prayers for you and not be worried.

Thank you, Two Feather! You give me peace in my heart by being there for my friend, Joanne and her very special Mom.

12/27/2007 6:19 PM  
Blogger Joanne D. Kiggins said...

Thank you to all who commented. Two is a wonderful person and he's always looking out for me and Mom. I wish I could say that my brother listened and heeded Two's words, but that's another story.

Maybe 2008 will bring better times.

12/28/2007 10:34 PM